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One of the things that can be helpful in the healing process is knowing you are not alone. I've found it helpful that, while my story is unique to me, I do have something in common with other survivors. We have invited survivors to share their stories...from abuse to surviving and thriving. We also invite you to share your story, no matter where you are in your journey. Your story can and will inspire others. In this section, you'll find such stories. 

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Everyone that you know has a story to tell, some easier to listen to than others. This is mine. It’s not easy to write, I am sure it won’t be easy to read. I write it not for sympathy, that’s not who or what I am about. I stand tall with my head held high. I am not the victim these people wanted me to be. I rose above all the abuse, the hurt, and the pain and became a Survivor. I write my story simply to share it, but also as a thanks to those that helped a scared kid all those years ago. The more people that know that Child Abuse happens every day in every town in every socioeconomic status, and then maybe just maybe it will happen less; fewer kids will bare the scars that cast a shadow over them that last a lifetime. So this is my story…

When my mother got sick in September of 2010, I was only fourteen. It wasn’t until August 2011 that she went to Mayo Clinic, and not until spring of 2012 that she was officially diagnosed with mal-de-debarquement syndrome also known as MDDS – or call it chronic dizziness, I really don’t care. We got her diagnosis in the mail. I was grilled with questions and punished for talking to anyone about what was going on. I had no one to turn to. I learned to cry without a sound.

When my mother’s health rapidly declined, I was the one who stepped up to the plate.

In the United States there is a strong link between youth foster care placement and substance abuse. Substance abuse is a contributing factor in approximately 75 percent of all foster care placements, often playing a key role in child neglect or abuse. According to The Center of Applied Research Solutions, alcohol and drug addiction affects 40 to 80 percent of all families in the child welfare system. Additionally, 34 percent of youth in foster care abuse drugs or alcohol, 12 percent higher than youth not in foster care.

My husband and I became foster parents in 2008 in hopes of adopting a child. After a few months of getting no placement calls, we decided to increase our licensing to allow up to two children. Within days, we were informed that we were being considered for placement of twin newborn babies! My famous last words to my husband were, "How much harder can two babies be than one?"

There’s no doubt about it: we live in an angry society. Signs that anger abounds are all over the place. There is desk rage, road rage, domestic violence, spousal abuse, child abuse, sports rage and most recently spam rage. Anger is a worldwide phenomenon and referrals to anger management programs have exploded since 9/11.

After a stressful day as a computer programmer, Jim pulled into his driveway. The children’s toys were scattered on the walkway to the house.
He immediately began noticing slight tension in his muscles and apprehension in his stomach.

Jim, a 42-year old engineer was teaching his eight-year-old son how to fly a radio-controlled airplane. As the airplane was taking off, Jim instructed his son to push the control stick on the radio to the right. He did and the airplane turned to the right.

Dateline: January 4th. Orange County Anger Management class participants review anger triggers of the week.

Jane, age 23, engaged to be married: “My boyfriend openly flirts with other women in front of me.”

Jim, age 40, an IT professional: “a work group back East didn’t finish their project on time, which made our progress look bad – I blew up!”

Every Holiday season Vicki found herself angry and silently seething at her older sister, Susie, and mother as they were merrily chatting about Susie’s successful life.

Eilizabeth, 32, cried during anger management class as she told how one year ago - her 19-month-old girl was permanently brain-damaged as the result of a medical error at the hospital in which she was delivered.

Think of your brain as a juke box where most of your records – your reactions to different situations – were recorded well before your reached adolescence. Then, as life goes on and every time someone pushes your button, you automatically play the record that fits each situation.

Those who have to put up with panic attack PTSD can tell you this condition isn't a joke, and that merely "snapping out of it", as numerous non-sufferers recommend, isn't as easy as it might appear. In the following paragraphs I'll talk about what it really means to put up with this kind of devastating ailment and several methods to better handle it.

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