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One of the things that can be helpful in the healing process is knowing you are not alone. I've found it helpful that, while my story is unique to me, I do have something in common with other survivors. We have invited survivors to share their stories...from abuse to surviving and thriving. We also invite you to share your story, no matter where you are in your journey. Your story can and will inspire others. In this section, you'll find such stories. 

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The events at Penn State may have been a trigger for many men. This article address how to help them begin, or continue to heal.

This article may not have the festive cheer I would hope for this time of year. Unfortunately my mind has been occupied and my heart heavy with the news of scandal at Penn State. This article will be an important on to remember as you gather this season with your friends and family for all of the men in you life, or yourself.

Anyone who has suffered trauma or abuse knows how hard it is on relationships, on you, on loved ones, and on your recovery. But there is hope for healing for you and for those you love. Part 4 and the final installment in a series on the necessity of trauma-informed recovery.

If there is one message I truly wish to impart to anyone who has been reading this series, it is this: you can heal from the effects of trauma, even devastating trauma, and there is hope for you and/or the person you love. And so, it is important that we do all we can to recognize the effect of trauma on our lives and the lives of our loved ones.

We know that approximately 75% of those who enter treatment for addiction have experienced at least one kind of abuse. So why are we still not talking about it? And why are there so few addiction curricula out there that are truly trauma-informed?

I was recently invited to speak at an event in the same small Virginia town where I started my recovery journey and had the chance to be with some of the people with whom I first got sober 17 years ago. There were the guys I called the Fantastic Four: my first sponsor, my first best friend in sobriety, the man who taught me how to say “Hi” to other people, and the man who had what I wanted. And there were the incredible women—especially Mama T and all the adopted grandmas.

Author Dan Griffin shares his personal journey with violence and explains why it is essential for those in recovery to be trauma-informed.

My passion in looking at men and trauma comes primarily from my personal experience as a young boy, first growing up in a violent alcoholic home and then having to deal with the impact of that trauma long into my thirties — and long into my sobriety. I still have vivid memories sitting on the top stair outside of my parents’ bedroom, hearing my mother screaming and crying as I was trying to get up the nerve to open the door or bang on it, once they/he had finally gotten smart enough to lock it. Or crying myself to sleep through the only slightly muffled sound of my parents yelling, cursing, and belittling each other — only to pretend like nothing had happened the next day. Or my Dad grabbing me by my leg as I was trying to get away from him,pulling me down the stairs and then proceeding to hit me. I could go on.

It doesn’t take much to figure out why many men are so resistant to therapy. We come by it naturally. From the time we are boys and all through adulthood, we are literally trained not to do anything that remotely resembles therapy. Think about the expectations for therapy or any form of personal growth: Ask for help? Uh, no – not even directions. Talk about feelings? Feelings, what are those? The thought of it just makes me mad! Be vulnerable? No thanks, that doesn’t help me; that is for women and girly-men. Talk about the past? Get over it.

Hi! I am Santa Rosa psychologist, therapist, and counselor Dr. Eric Ryan—I help people get their lives back on track if they feel stuck or lost! People may experience negative moods (such as depression & anxiety) and/or behaviors (“checking out” with substances, alcohol, food, gaming, TV, etc.) when there life is off track.

Hi! I am Santa Rosa psychologist, therapist, and counselor Dr. Eric Ryan - I am a depression doctor or psychotherapist. There are psychologically based, proven treatments to relieve depression that do not involve taking drugs. I would like to talk to you about your mood and help you understand if you are clinically depressed and what you can do to overcome depression.

If you have found this page then you probably are interested in knowing more about anxiety, social anxiety or shyness, stress, worry, and related problems or disorders, what they are & how to get over them. You are in the right place!

Finding a path with a heart takes some work but can help you overcome difficult emotions like depression and anxiety. There are steps you can take to find your path today!

Are you on a path with heart - one with meaning and purpose? Are you struggling with difficult emotions like depression and anxiety?

Depression has many causes and can be more like a sign of an underlying problem then what is typically regarded as a medical disorder (like diabetes or cancer). Depression rarely occurs in a vacuum and the underlying reasons for your depression may not be clear. One less obvious, yet common, reason for your depression may be due to living your life out of a false sense of self.

Learning to be present, to truly live in the moment, rather than getting caught up in the past or future is a powerful antidote for negative moods like depression and anxiety. The result is a greater sense of aliveness and openness to all the possible inherent joys in life, which are usually not available to you when you focus too much on the past or future.

If you have found this page then you probably are interested in knowing more about anxiety, social anxiety or shyness, stress, worry, and related problems or disorders, what they are & how to get over them. You are in the right place!

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