What has struck me the most about the events is the word Mr. Sheen has used throughout his interviews: over and over again he talks about âwinning.â In his mind, Mr. Sheen is âwinningâ and is a âwinner.â Why does he say that? Because, in his own words: he is a genius actor who has singlehandedly kept CBS and Warner Brothers solvent, has the two âgoddessesâ (one a âformerâ porn star and the other a model/marijuana advocate) living in his âSober Valley Lodge,â the car he drives, and the money he makes. Sound familiar? Look back over the past century and you will see that this resume is not new for any man who has ever tried out for the job of Superman.
The evidence Sheen uses to make his case for why he is a âwinnerâ with âtiger bloodâ and âAdonis DNAâ are all the trappings that we have been told for decades will make us happy as men. We are told from very early we should fantasize about sex with two women, big fancy cars and homes, and, of course, fame and power. Mr. Sheen has all of this. I cannot say whether or not Mr. Sheen is happy; I can introduce him to hundreds of men who have tried that approach and only found it empty and unfulfilling -- and many who have almost died at the hands of that very seductive goal.
Is Sheen using? It is not clear. He passed a drug test for his interview with Radar online. Or perhaps, as many experts think, he is having an extremely manic episode. Regardless, he does seem to be exhibiting the behaviors of someone who is having some sort of mental health breakdown. What is clear is that Mr. Sheen is speaking in a way that is beyond grandiose, and I can only imagine the impact it is having on those who care about him the most, particularly his father.
If you listened closely to Sheenâs comments there is something else there that seems to be underlying his rants about the foolishness of AA and the concepts of recovery embraced by many in our field. I heard in Sheenâs comments what I have heard from many men struggling with addiction over the years: not that it didnât work for them, but that it couldnât work for them. Tired of being vulnerable and sharing the innermost parts of their lives and not being able to get sober, they give up. âI tried it for 22 years,â Sheen said, âtrying to do what everyone else wanted me to and where did it get me?â He did not say it couldnât work for him, but I have to ask what is really lying underneath all of the bravado?
Unless he truly is as special as he professes, Sheen is scared, confused, and feeling resigned to a life of addiction because one of recovery seems so elusive to him. He has to prove to all of us that he is such a winner because -- you guessed it -- he doesnât feel that way at all. There is nothing more painful than having to convince yourself that the way you are killing yourself is the only way to live.
I do truly and sincerely hope that Mr. Sheen âwinsâ but I have a feeling if it happens that it will not look at all like he thinks it should. And that is a very good thing.